ASK ALICE

Dear Nailed readers,

This month Ask Alice is offering tried and tested wisdom on breaking off with your boyfriend or girlfriend, without hurting their feelings. Because after all we’re here to talk about problems, not make them!

Dear Alice,
Cheaters never prosper!

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now, that should be enough to trust him but lately he’s been sneaking around, saying he’s busy one minute or using his mates as alibis with a different excuse every time. He’s shifty about his phone too, always checking it, inexplicable phone calls and now he seems suspiciously distant in conversations. He doesn’t seem interested in me anymore and pays no attention with making effort; maybe he’s just getting bored? Help.
Unknown. Trowbridge.

Believe it or not, your problem is a very common one! I can understand how you would be suspicious as your boyfriend seems to be acting very weirdly. However there can be many reasons for this. I had a friend who had the same problem; turns out he was planning a surprise party for her! The solution here my dear friend is to talk to your other half, ask him why he’s acting strangely. You may just have to trust him. Although if he is lying, there is no excuse, a healthy relationship needs honesty.

Dear Alice,
Earth to boyfriend?

I am having trouble with my boyfriend. very time we go to his place or talk on the phone, he just doesn’t listen to what I say because he is too involved into the television Watching something pointless like ‘Match of the Day’ or ‘Top Gear’

. Alice can you help me please? Many thanks,

P.T.
Hello there Miss P, so your boyfriend doesn’t pay attention? This needs to be sorted out right away, as problems like these could amount to an argument. Instead, you should talk to your boyfriend before the television is turned on and tell him that you don’t think he listens sometimes, and that you feel he needs to involve himself into what you are saying, instead of prioritising what is on the T.V. Being ignored is never a pleasant thing and it is important for you both to communicate.
Alternatively, why not compromise and get him to watch some of your favourites with you, such as ‘Sex and the City’, see if ignoring you is so appealing after watching an episode of Carrie and the gang. ;)

Your stresses and worries are always welcome, dear readers, so please don’t hesitate to tell me. No problem too big and no problem too small, e-mail your Dilemma to; 2014575@student.wiltshire.ac.uk

by Alice Denton